My Shoulder

Poor thing! It spoke to me so much, I never listened to it. I kept on pushing it beyond its limit. Ah! thos blissful summer days of sports... play from morning 10 til 6 .. Volleyball, Cricket, just Catch-Catch and Tennis in the evening.. what more did I need. Being allergic to egg, not eating any meat, was strictly on "Anna saaru" to build muscles (yea rite!).. My tennis coach used to say "drink a glass of milk but add a raw egg into it" - prepared it one day and thats it.. never to get close to smelling that thing again is what i said to myself... Those days of glory at school.. was the President, was the school volleyball captain.. a role model for all (good, bad!)... what more.. just kept on jumping and hitting smash after smash. Not enough?? train others to receive smashes by making them stand in a circle and keep smashing at them... macho man huh!! gave it a small break during Pre-University days, but then only to resume more fiercly in Eng. Every free period, weekends, evenings, knew nothing but to play volleyball! well it gave me a glimpse of what was coming when I could not deliver when needed (we lost our match against Electronics team) :-( .. sad but true.. that opened my eyes only to close again... came to the U.S. started shuttle badminton.. oh this is easy.. not much stress at all.. and then one day in January .. it said.. here you go! pay for it now! my shoulder clicked.. felt as if I was holding a 100 kg weight !.. stopped for a few minutes to relax and contd... thinking.. yea yea.. i know its ok..

And now...
Diagnosed with SLAP (Superior Labrum from Anterior to Posterior) .. in simple terms have a tear that won't heal with simple physical therapy.. need to sew it together.. (its weeping - my shoulder ofcourse)... but there's no other go.. if i have to get back to some sort of sport or physical exercise routine.. Unfortunately my other shoulder is saying.. i guess you tore me too... now i feel like thakur from Sholay - the only difference - he lost it when gabbar cut his both hands and me! I TORE THEM BOTH !! SOB SOB....

“Man needs his difficulties because they are necessary to enjoy success.”

The title was quoted by Hon. A.P.J. Abdul Kalam Azad. I think thats very true. The very fact that success gets its meaning is from difficulties. The fact that light can earns its meaning is by the absence of darkness. But most of the times we engulf ourselves so much in difficulty that we fail to notice success. I guess its each individual's perspective. Man's basic nature is to correct others and make them think and act like him - because he thinks he is right! I read this book called "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus". I found it very interesting and still keep applying a few things now and then when I come across situations. Man's basic instinct to find solutions to everything, Women's need for a compassionate listener - I think these form the building blocks of any marriage. If they can understand the simple fact that Men are Men and Women are Women and not try to change each other, things would be much better. More often than not, husband finds fault in wife and vice versa and tries to correct each other's behavior. I once learned that no matter what you can change in a person - you cannot change their intrinsic behavior/character. But inspite of all this, we still try to convince/pressurize/force people to change their intrinsic behavior and become something else. Why??? Why can't you just let people be what they are? (this line I learned from my friend's comments on my blog). In spite of people advising me to read books like "How to Win Friends and Influence People" - one of the seven or (how many I forget ) liners was "Don't Condemn, Complain or Criticize" - Is this truly possible? Knowingly or unknowingly we all keep doing this day in day out - some even make it their full time work! So why blame others that they don't learn and implement anything after reading? Fact is person cannot live without those 3 C's I mentioned. Its what level you go to in doing those that differentiates individuals. So my title has not much to do with what I am writing. My friend send me this quote this morning and just felt like using it in my blog.

The other day I was mentioning to one of my friends how we argue on simple issues like wasting water, electricity, food, etc. Although I do think we shouldn't be wasting all these since they are not available in abundance - knowing for a fact that how many rich people in this world are wasting these in large amounts gets me to think - is it worth arguing at home or wherever and create bitter moments? As long as each individual realizes the value of it, I don't think there should be any more discussions on these topics. Because no matter what we save, what we don't - someone somewhere is wasting 10 times more than what we are saving.

So my new philosophy in Life - " Enjoy Optimally while it lasts " - Pretty general but I apply it to natural resources and optimum applies to what I consider optimum. I guess my up bringing will not allow me to waste food and other resources which were hard to come by back then.

Anyways.. thats it for now!
Take care,
SanDeep!