So which do you prefer? Respected among friends and peers or liked among them? or both? well - I don't know if both is possible though.. may be it is... if so, I would like to be there.. The fact that I have been the latter almost all my life hurts me and now I want to start being respected.. Can you be totally funny, outgoing and yet when it matters your friends/family look up to you? I feel people have a tendency to take you the way they see you and not the way you behave at different situations..Some just take you for granted (which I am dead allergic to) and some just want to deal with you the same way they deal with you all the time. So is it possible that a group of friends or a family can work together and still one person lead the way? what defines credibility? how does one build it? experience? so without actually giving someone a chance, how does one get experience? the same story with jobs and experience.
Being liked is easier than respected - for example I can pretty much say I am very much liked in the whole family, although my sister probably might be more respected when it comes to certain situations. She keeps telling me that I am a volcano waiting to explode. In the habbit of being liked and pleasing everyone, I am probably hurting my ego. But wait, isn't ego bad? well, err, i guess not as much as long as it is controlled well - so how do you know if you are controlling it? what acts constitute bad ego and what doesn't? All this adds to your management style. I guess I need to be more assertive and clear if I am heading up to lead a company or just a team or even a family. Has looks got to do a lot with the way people treat you? My uncle and a neighbor used to tell me that my height and personality suits for a leader/manager. Well, granted I was the President of my school, was captain of the sports team, used to be the captain whenever I played cricket with friends (atleast most of the time), but now that I can look back, it wasn't all because of my height or look - it was either moreso that people didnt want that responsibility and I enjoyed it. Whatever it is, I will try and figure it out someday... until then I will work on improving my "Respected" qualities :-) !
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Haa Haa! Another of those I-want-to-be-this and I-also-want-to-be-that things which all of us face. But yes, you make a very good distinction between being liked and being respected.
I'll share an interesting piece of information I read about global CEOs. And what was common to them was, wait you'll love this, they were all charming people and their average height was 6 feet and above!!
Now, I say, according to that statistic, you are on the path to salvation!
I love writing this - "Hence Proved!!"
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